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6 years and going strong!

Today is my 6th wedding anniversary and I couldn’t be happier! I married my best friend, a cliché I know, but he really has been by my side through thick and thin! When we got married, we didn’t have a care in the world. I didn’t suffer from my health problems and everything was super easy. We’ve rarely fought over the past 7 years we’ve been together and here’s some of the things that’s helped us along the way:

The negative side of perfectionism

As you may have read in my anxiety post, I see my writing as a way of de-stressing and releasing my thoughts. It’s certainly a lot easier to write about nice things, but not so easy to share the more emotional things that happen in a week. This week was a little more than just anxiety for me. I have high standards for myself and although I know I should make them more realistic, I feel that I should always be functioning on a high level.

School Applications: Don’t Panic!

I found that the whole school thing crept up on me, and I was less than prepared. I had missed most of the first round of open days and some I’d missed completely! Applications were meant to be in by the beginning of January and I was already in November. That might still sound like there’s lots of time to visit schools, but in reality, some schools will only allow tours on open days, as I found out.

5 easy ways to say goodbye to anxious thoughts…

About three years ago now, I developed severe anxiety due to a traumatic experience in hospital. To this day, I still suffer with anxiety, but through retraining my thoughts, I don’t suffer anywhere near as badly as I did. My anxiety attacks these days are completely manageable and panic attacks are super rare as I am able to identify the symptoms and can quash them before they start to take hold. Here are my top tips on how I have dealt with my anxiety:

An open letter to ‘Chronic Pain’

I’ve had enough now… I ignore you, but you keep coming back! You’re like a stalker, but I can’t get a restraining order for you. I can’t get you ‘put away’… you’re just there. I’m broken.

You don’t just give me pain, you’ve changed me as a person. I feel like a shell of my old self. Not only are you a stalker, you’re a thief! you’ve taken my confidence, my independence and most of my happiness. You make me feel worthless. The one thing you will never take is the love I have for my family. Whilst I have them, you will not stop me trying to get rid of you.